How to Embrace & Reflect Joy: My Father’s Loving Attitude

by dena on March 6, 2014

“Every day is a beautiful day. You just have to take it the way it comes.” This is a quote I jotted in the car the other day, taking my father to see a friend. (In a few minutes, I will explain how he happened to say this.)

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My father is one of the most loving souls on this planet. He always has been.

He is 95 years old and has been sliding into dementia for several years, to the point he now seems to live entirely in the present moment. He doesn’t think about tomorrow or five minutes ago. His smiles and cheerful comments bring people into his company. Folks naturally enjoy being around him, and he radiates their joy back to them.

A month ago, my sister and I moved him into a precious environment we found a few miles from his home. It is a memory support unit that is set up like a spacious family home. He and thirteen others have their own private bedrooms with en suite bath. Each exits the bedroom into a large great room – kitchen with skylight, dining area, living area with comfy chairs and television. There are activities galore. I think the transition was easier for him than for us, emotionally. He does not seem to realize he moved from his home, perhaps because he is in what I think of as an out-of-sight-out-of-mind kind of beingness.

Every single staff person who works with him has made a point of telling us how much they love him. “He is the kindest man I ever met.” “He is so sweet.”  “Everyone just loves him.” “He is so appreciative, he thanks us for every little thing – even giving him a pill.” All who work there are caring and compassionate people, and it is a pleasure to witness the love-fest they have with my father.

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He has long remarked on the world around him, calling our attention to the beautiful clouds, the beautiful flowers, even the bright yellow of a car. He embraces and reflects love, joy, beauty, and other wonderfulness.

Now, for the story about the quote at the beginning of this post. We were driving through a fairly heavy rain. The temperature had dropped from 60 to 39 degrees F in the past couple hours.  My father looked at the sky and said, “It’s a beautiful day.” I repeated his statement, though I’d turned it into a question. That was the moment he offered his wisdom. “Every day is a beautiful day. You just have to take it the way it comes.”

 

 

Blissings, Dena

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16 comments
Love Revealed Stories
Love Revealed Stories

Sweet Rose, my heart is filled with love and gratitude as I savor your note. Long distance hugs to you, also. ♡ ♡

Rose Sincevich
Rose Sincevich

Dearest Dena i deeply apprecitate this tender reminisence...tears stream my cheeks.....just half an hour ago i was talking with Sam about Ron's eagle in the meditaiton room, now to see this treasure appear on my screen.....bursting with long distance hugs for you and your Awake Dad...... Only LOVE !

Rosalind Cheshire
Rosalind Cheshire

Hugs to Uncle Johnny....what a profound observation....sometimes we need to be reminded of the truth in his statement.

dena
dena

Donna, thank you for your compassionate note. He thinks the world of you, also. I will share your message with him when I see him later today. Blissings, ~ Dena

Donna
Donna

Dena, I am so glad to hear Uncle Johnny is doing well in his new environment. I have been wondering how he was doing. Uncle Johnny is one of the most wonderful men I have ever known. Love, Donna

Linda K.
Linda K.

What a sweet and tender story, Dena. Thank you for this gift, sharing your loving relationship with your gentle father. The home you and Neva have found for him sounds so cozy, warm and inviting and not at all institutional. It's good to know that places like that are available. "Every day is a beautiful day. You just have to take it the way it comes." What a comfort. Love, Linda

dena
dena

Linda, thank you for shining a light on another aspect I had not seen, that our father's philosophy is also a comfort. It truly is. Blissings, ~ Dena

Marci Kranz
Marci Kranz

Dena, I am so glad that the transition went well for your father to his new living arrangement. It sounds like he continues to be a wonderful, positive man even while sliding into dementia. How grateful you and your sister must be ! I am happy that things are moving along for all of you in a loving, joyful way. Love, Marci

dena
dena

You are so right, Marci, we have much gratitude for our father's living arrangement and for the amazing person he is. Thank you for your lovely message. Blissings, ~ Dena

Nancy
Nancy

What a beautiful tribute to a remarkable man who really knows what Love is. Thank you for sharing this.

dena
dena

Nancy, thank you. My father continues to show me extraordinary life lessons, by example. Blissings, ~ Dena

Rosalind
Rosalind

Uncle Johnny is kind, sweet and loving to the very core of his being. He's right, every day is a beautiful day and no matter what kind of day it is we are grateful to be in the moment. A nugget of wisdom from a special and loving man. Hugs to you both.

dena
dena

Thank you, Rosalind. Our whole extended family has been blessed with an abundance of loving people, haven't we? Including you, by the way! Blissings, ~ Dena

Christine Li
Christine Li

Now we know where your joy for life and giving comes from! Thanks for sharing and writing such a glorious story. Christine

dena
dena

Christine, your note touches me so. I appreciate you for bringing this heart connection here. Blissings, ~ Dena

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